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Fear, anger and
sorrow are powerful emotions that can cause damage to our health if
not dealt with. Last month we looked at fear, and the root of fear
which stems from abandonment. When we have been abandoned by
significant people especially in our formatives years, it leaves us
feeling vulnerable and unprotected. And this is where fear comes
from. We feel like there is something around the corner that will
harm us, whether a person, situation, event. We feel fear because
we do not feel secure in our lives.
When fear is not
dealt with it leads to anger. Anger is a strong, root emotion. It
impacts every metabolic function of the body. Webster’s definition
of anger is: A strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence
aroused by a wrong.
Unlike fear, God’s
instructions for anger are “don’t let the sun set on your anger.”
Anger in itself is not a problem, it is what you do with it that can
be a problem. Anger is on the rise in this country. We see it in
road rage, angry divorces, violence in schools and increased gang
activity.
The Origin of Anger
If fear
originates from rejection by our parents, where does anger
originate? Anger is a reflection of not liking ourselves. It comes
from self. If a person has been abandoned by their parents, then
the natural belief is that there is something wrong with self.
Otherwise, why would the child have been abandoned? Anger breaks
the relationship with our self.
God’s original plan
was for a child to be wanted. Not only was the child meant to be
wanted, she/he was to be blessed. A blessing is a spoken set of
words designed to honor, praise, protect, and bestow value and to
set in motion good. A blessing is to desire the very best, an
invocation of every possible good. How special, to have a parent
speak such words over a child on a daily basis.
Instead of a
blessing, many children hear the opposite – a curse. The lack of a
blessing is a curse. There is no middle ground either. Either you
have been blessed in an area of your life, or you have not, which
means you are operating under a curse.
Without a blessing,
no value has been imparted and the result is a lack of self-image or
a poor self-image. How accurately that describes many people
today!
Shame - The
Spiritual Root of Anger
If a
child has never been received or blessed, the spiritual root will be
SHAME. Without knowing who they are or who they were created to be,
people will feel inadequate, insignificant and unimportant. Shame
will manifest as anger. It’s a form of self-defense. It is also
common to see anger accompanied by bitterness and resentment.
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